Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

My wife and I have tried various chastity time periods. We both prefer just a week as my orgasms usually trigger my wife’s own orgasm and she just likes to make me cum. I also like to have an orgasm once a week because if I do not, I am consumed 24/7 with thoughts of sex. I dream about it and cannot seem to stop bugging my wife about it no matter what the punishment. Adding more time is not an effective deterrent because you reach a point where your orgasm date is so far away that the threat of more time loses its impact. I also do not enjoy feeling horny every minute of the day. Some may enjoy it, but I do not, especially since I am retired and with my wife every day. We are agreed on a week as it meets both our wants and needs and that is what it is all about. The problem is that my wife hates the way I act for the 3-4 days after my orgasm. I no longer feel submissive and not eager to do what she tells me to do. Instead of seeing the puppy dog eager to please, she sees resentment on my face when told to do anything by her. I agree with her. I feel dominant again after my orgasm and until horniness kicks in, I am in no mood to play the sub. This is a stumbling block we need to overcome to meet our schedule of orgasms. My wife did some research and got the feeling that the key factor in lessening the impact of my orgasm is necessary: reminding me of my submissiveness to her immediately after my orgasm. In the past, I had my orgasm and we went on for a few days without me even locking up because I did not feel the need to masturbate. We use my CB6000 only as a masturbation deterrent so I wear it only when necessary. The two ideas she liked were to make me eat my cum immediately after my orgasm. She knows that I do not like this and I rarely have done so, every time she tried. The other thing she will do is make me lock up immediately after my orgasm and start dominating me immediately. She is hoping that this will put me into a submissive and obedient frame of mind quicker than before. She said that she could live with me being ‘bitchy’ for one day but not 4 days as it is now. I told her that I am not so sure about the cum eating thing as I really do not like it at all, as she well knows. She said that is precisely why she wants me to do it. It is one of the few things she tells me to do that I actually hate to do. Everything else, I do not mind. I finally agreed to it if we do it in stages. Tonight I will just lick her fingers clean. Then next week she will feed me more until she can capture all of my cum in her hand and I can eat it all. I am also supposed to lick clean any place it lands. I do not know if I can end up where she wants me to be but I had no problem cleaning her after intercourse in the past when she used to allow that. I have no problem doing it when I am horny and she feeds me from a week-old rubber or a frozen cum ice cube. I have even eaten the cum of other men from my wife and my old girlfriend. So I think it is one of those psychological barriers making me adverse to eating it after I have an orgasm. I got used to a lot worse things in my mouth so I probably can get used to this. I do agree that she needs to take control again right after my orgasm rather than backing off on the D/S stuff because she sees my resentment when I do what she asks. She mentioned that for years, she has swallowed my cum when she was not horny and it was done as a dominating act and now she just wants to reverse that. I can see her point so I will give it a try tonight. I do not mind the locking up part but I wonder if anyone else gets more horny locked up than they do unlocked. I do. Anyone else have any ideas of how to put me back into a submissive mood right after my orgasm? All reasonable and realistic suggestions will be given serious consideration as we are desperate to find a fix for this problem. One good suggestion I came across on the web was that instead of making Saturday orgasm night, we view it as a test of control for me. I have to try not to cum while my wife tries to make me cum. Of course, I will end up cumming and that then becomes a reason to administer punishment in the form of domestic discipline. I found this very interesting because it changes the whole dynamics of what we do. My goal changes from having an orgasm to trying not to have one and there is punishment involved if I do have an orgasm. This is much different than edging as my wife will use every trick she knows to force my orgasm and I know that she can because I have tried in the past to resist to no avail. I thought this to be a very clever idea and hope that someone here can suggest more things that may work.