I have explored numerous fetishes throughout my life. Some I enjoyed and still appreciate, others lost their appeal after a few years, while some just weren’t for me and were abandoned quickly. One certainty is that I tend to develop detailed fantasies. This results in a script I expect my partner to follow. Sometimes we share the same vision, other times not. The choice to stay together always depended on whether her version of my fantasy contained enough key elements to keep it enjoyable.
In our current setup, I introduced Teasing and Denial with release at the end of each session. I also proposed formalizing our Wife Led Marriage since she has managed our household alongside her girlfriends for most of our time together while I was away from home often. I didn’t mind her running things because she allowed me control over my work, which was all that mattered to me then. There wasn’t a strict Dominance/Submission dynamic involved. My wife always considered my needs and desires, so our WLM felt more like a business arrangement than a sexual fetish. We rarely disagreed on anything previously. Back then, we didn’t have a formal name for the relationship or clear definitions of how it should work.:) We simply did what worked best for us, and our marriage wasn’t defined by power dynamics or sexuality as much. Since I was often away, she needed decision-making authority because she handled money better than I did. It made perfect sense.
Currently, we are deeply invested in Teasing and Denial with chastity added to the mix. Over time, we moved from ending teasing sessions with an orgasm to longer periods of indefinite chastity, using a CB6000 when my wife is away. Usually, I am on the honor system. I loved getting my orgasms and could have as many as she was willing to give me in short term chastity periods. Essentially, what happened is that my wife grew to love her control over me, which spilled over into our WLM, leading to me becoming essentially her slave. It isn’t quite the master/slave scene you might read about; rather, I now do as she says without it being just an exercise of power. She keeps me busy with small household tasks, like cleaning the shower after she uses it and running back to the kitchen when she wants something. Most nights, I give her a foot massage.
My well-defined short-term chastity periods have transitioned to indefinite durations. She has largely lost her feelings of guilt or obligation to let me cum. She also gets to see my personality for the first time when I am very horny and denied. Throughout our marriage, I rarely went more than a few days without an orgasm, so I wasn’t as pliable back then as I am now during longer denials. She likes having me eager and horned in on her wishes and has mentioned she really doesn’t want to wait for me to cycle through the mental state again after each release. She acknowledges that I don’t want total abstinence forever, preferring at least one orgasm a month. Her response is simply “we’ll see”.
What began as my fantasy hasn’t completely shifted away from her vision entirely, but I do like some aspects of how she has shaped it. Others less so. Still, there is enough overlap to continue because the alternative would be returning to our plain vanilla sex life, which I disliked after years outside that norm. The element of submissiveness is present and is the overriding factor for me, so I play along hoping she remembers my needs too. I doubt she will let months pass without an orgasm since she enjoys making me cum even when I’m reluctant. Time will tell, but we have moved from my script to hers.
How many of you started with a specific script where she was supposed to do or say certain things, only for her to follow her own path? How many of you began Chastity with clear ideas about what you wanted—such as being locked up constantly or just denied orgasms for short periods—and now find yourselves living your wife’s fantasy instead?