Even though I don’t have vast experience, I’ve observed in recent weeks that many individuals seek varied outcomes with vastly differing expectations of chastity.
Today, several prospective chaste men approached me regarding keyholding. My usual reply is to direct them to my blog and the threads here for details on what I require. This lets a prospect back out if he feels unable to meet those needs without losing much more than some time.
So it strikes me as odd that twice today someone proposed joining my group while not wearing a device, relying instead on self-denial. To me, this isn’t true chastity; it seems like they want their fantasy fulfilled by having me deny them. It’s amusing to be labeled a harsh woman for refusing their offer of controlled chastity.
To any prospective chaste male considering if you are seeking a mistress, remember that giving up control is the essence of it. Continuing your daily life as usual but expecting someone to tease you while denying yourself isn’t really an option—at least not with me. Other Dommes here, please let me know if I’m mistaken.