Why are you doing this? Those in cages and those holding the keys

For me.. I’m fairly new.. A month in, wearing my steel cage off and on. It had to take it off more than I like because of chafing, pinching, and still trying to get the right.. ‘sit’, if you know what I mean. I still have a chafing wound, but I’m working through that minimal pain because I don’t like it off. This started because I met woman who just makes me feel like I want to submit to her and give her control. I like that a lot, though she isn’t nearly as interested as I am, so it is mostly me doing it to myself. She might grow to like it more hopefully.. I hope to become pro level, so to speak. If it was up to me, I would always be wearing it, and it only comes off when she says (other than cleaning and maybe a nightly rest with no masturbation once or twice a month). The fun part of my current dynamic is that she is very forgetful and forgets I’m wearing it. I don’t like to remind her! Interestingly, I did not feel apprehensive or even cautious. Not from the first. Is that odd? I’m not sure.. I took to it like a fish to water and enjoyed it from the first. As a man who used to masturbate and watch porn at the slightest provocation… Giving a woman I am in love with control makes the search for pleasure have meaning again. That’s the point of it for me.. To focus on her.. To have that focus at all… It’s worth the pain and denial. I believe I am not alone in these thoughts and goals. I don’t want permanent denial though. I want to have sex with my future wife often. I just get a kick out of knowing it will be on her terms, not mine. Just the thought makes me start to strain against my cage. What are your reasons? I’m especially wanting to hear from keyholders what they enjoy about this dynamic and what made them agree or suggest it in the first place? I plan on having my goddess read the responses in the hopes she will get more excited.