Hello, A few days back I had a disagreement with my wife. It wasn’t centered on sex or chastity specifically, but rather just life circumstances—getting sick and feeling exhausted. However, this spat had repercussions because my wife simply didn’t feel like getting physical for a while. As the days went by, I started to feel somewhat neglected. This prompted a chat yesterday where she explained that when she’s not in the mood (I’d been denied sex for two weeks) but I’m aroused and waiting for some intimacy, I tend to pressurize her at exactly the moment she craves personal space.
I completely get it and understand her mindset regarding all of this. Sometimes you just need your own room (like right after a fight), and you don’t want someone hovering around expecting you to become playful or intimate. So we talked through this specific issue, which is kind of amplified by the orgasm denial aspect, and concluded that forced masturbation seems like the best fix. It allows her to decide if she’s up for playing or giving me what I need. She decided that asking me to cum on my own would be a good way to buy herself some space and let us start fresh, thanks to the post-orgasm refractory period.
I keep telling her that my penis now belongs to her, so it’s her call when and how she wants it used. But I find having her order me to masturbate a bit disappointing. It feels somewhat contradictory to both orgasm denial and chastity play. On the flip side, though, if she needs space, this might be the only way for her to truly get it because my horniness creates pressure even when I’m not actively asking or talking about needing sex.
How do you all deal with arguments and situations like this? What are your thoughts on her making me cum via masturbation? I really am unsure how to feel about everything.