"Chastity Devices" and Their Role

Many discussions here focus on finding a “perfect” chastity device. That means many users seem to need something comfortable and unobtrusive enough for continuous wear over weeks or months, yet secure enough to stop masturbation (and perhaps erections) without giving away the effort. I doubt a truly perfect option exists for men without piercings, though several come close. We’ve used a well-fitting Mature Metal cage for about five years; it’s very comfortable, but I can’t wear it nonstop longer than three or four days before serious chafing sets in, and the metal makes travel through detectors too troublesome to be practical. Even if an ideal “extended wear” device existed, I’ve started questioning its real purpose. Some background: My partner and I have been together for about 15 years, engaging seriously with chastity for at least twelve of them. For over a decade, she has controlled my orgasms. We are both switches; although she enjoys sexual dominance from me, our rule remains that she decides when if I can release. It works well. Sometimes I am not denied and may come whenever asked. Other times, I wait a month or (rarely) longer between reliefs. She holds the power and knows how to make it deliciously frustrating for me. I LIKE her control over my orgasms. I LIKE having that authority over me. The frustration is real, of course, but I enjoy it. I refrain from masturbating because she commands it, not merely due to physical restriction. That said, we DO use the MM cage. During extended denial (after about a week), she has me wear it while at home and in bed. (We both travel for work, so whether we share the same bed varies). I always have access to the key. The goal isn’t strictly prevention but rather a reminder if my hands wander idly. It also serves as a reminder of my totally voluntary predicament, which heightens the frustration. But when heading to work, the cage comes off. And I still do not masturbate (without permission, naturally). I know some folks and couples appreciate the symbolism or appearance of a permanent 24/7 device, which is fine. However, finding one that is truly suitable in practice is difficult for many. When we gave up on strict 24/7 wear, I thought it was a compromise, but actually, it feels like no compromise at all.