Channeling Sexual Energy Through Sublimation?

My wife’s stance on orgasm denial (OD) varies: it can be hot in the moment, fun, relieving, or just “meh” if I seem too needy and life is getting complicated. Sometimes OD has stretched to nearly 50 days, though that doesn’t happen often. I’ve gone through the whole roller coaster—feeling “high,” experiencing good frustration, bad frustration, and even a touch of boredom. Some sex at the end of these stretches feels incredibly intense and totally worth it, but there’s usually an obvious hangover afterward. Has anyone successfully “sublimated” their sexual energy in this way? I’m looking for that balance where energy stays high without becoming bored or needy. Maybe you channel it into creativity, exercise, career goals, or other relationship aims. I don’t want the “kink” element to disappear completely, but when my wife finally yields, I don’t want her giving in just because I wore her down with neediness. Also, I don’t want her to think I’m self-absorbed or stingy. Hmm.