I’ve previously gone three consecutive months with the key held, including during sleep. In recent years, I’ve been much more susceptible to swelling and irritation. I’ve experimented with both metal devices and soft rubber ones, but all of them have caused some form of skin trouble at one point or another. This has complicated things when trying to use toys alongside chastity lately.
A typical cycle looks like this: Day 1 - “Chastity is wonderful!” Day 2 - “It’s a bit uncomfortable, yet still great.” Day 3 - “I can’t sleep with it on.” Day 4 - “Alright, I might be able to put it back in after a few days.”
The soft rubber option seemed like an excellent choice, especially since it holds more symbolic value for us, but my testicles start stinging fiercely about an hour later unless I wrap them in cloth. Even then, they remain too sensitive for long periods of use. The usual tricks and workarounds haven’t been as effective as they used to be.
I’m still planning to do a month at home (since I work from home and our poly partner lives with us in the apartment) while wearing my old CB2000, which causes the least chafing and feels most comfortable. I also have a 6000 model, a curved one, and a metal option.
Anyway, we’ll see how it goes. I actually miss being locked up more often than our current arrangement allows. Right now, it’s mostly based on trust. No penetrative sex with my wife or full orgasms for me. Since she prefers toys, I wear a strap-on during intimacy. With my other partner, we use toys and hands but no penetration. As I age, my wife wants me to ejaculate more frequently, though she doesn’t enjoy doing it herself, so the balance works out eventually. Still, I do miss being locked most of the time! It drives me crazy too, which is a whole different story!