I can’t be the only person dealing with a bisexual KH. Here is where I stand. A few years back, we relocated from my wife’s girlfriend of thirty-eight years, who had taken up most of our forty-five-year marriage. My wife has somewhat unique sexual preferences; as I’ve realized, being bi isn’t just about her enjoying sex with women while staying happy regardless of the partner. She has only slept with one woman and always with me there (even if merely observing). Her preference order is FFM or FM where she is the only male, a setup we tested once before. That’s basically it.
After moving, our intimacy became dull, so I sought something new to liven things up—not as simple as it sounds. My wife tries everything at least once.
We found out about chastity roughly a year ago. I wear a CB6000s mostly, with brief periods of freedom every few days when my wife is present. Here lies the challenge: she finds semen repulsive, particularly how men spray it around. Intercourse has been forbidden for longer than we can recall—roughly thirty years now. She blames my semen for her frequent vaginal infections. Additionally, a medical issue makes intercourse uncomfortable. Once we confirmed I was sterile and couldn’t impregnate her, she saw no need for sex.
It sounds odd given her sexuality and feelings toward me. As she explains it, she enjoys making me hard, edging me, and hearing my moans of pleasure or frustration. She says the noises I make combined with my penile hardness trigger her own orgasms. With me, she is highly multi-orgasmic; this wasn’t the case with her girlfriend, who would cum once and be done. In her view, she lets me cum just to please me because she loves me. She’d be content if I never came again.
Our main conflict arises because I insist on having orgasms only when she decides, not when I decide, yet I guilt-trip her whenever I want release. She points out that I can’t have it both ways since I actually hold the long-term reins, not her. I see logic in this but hesitate to surrender total control to a woman who doesn’t seem interested in orgasming for my benefit. She claims she would deny me forever if given free rein. In reality, I suspect she will only withhold release for months at a time, allowing it on occasions like our anniversary, Christmas, and birthdays.
Does anyone else have a bisexual KH who sees your orgasm as optional to her sexual enjoyment? Would you trust such a person with your fate? She admitted that she only fantasizes about women, never men. Her fantasy is ruined when I squirt while she uses the vibrator; she has to hold my erect penis during masturbation for some reason—though why remains unclear. This creates a dynamic where she holds a sensitive, aroused organ but focuses on herself rather than me. I’ve had accidents due to this distraction. I try warning her, but she is so self-absorbed that she ignores the signs. She wants fewer incidents and asks that I wear my CB during sex when we are intimate; I prefer feeling her hand against me, not just on my balls or cage.
Tonight marks both her birthday and our scheduled date night. It has been about two weeks since I last came, and she wants to extend this for another ten weeks until a special occasion arises. She offered that if I choose to cum tonight, she will ensure it is enjoyable but mark the end of chastity play (without hard feelings). If I agree to denial, I must truly give her control without making her feel guilty. I am undecided. Long-term denial appeals to me, as does orgasmic release. I have a few hours left to decide.
Writing this helps clarify things, though not entirely yet.