Introductions discussion

Hi everyone, I’m Jalen. I’ve been watching and peeking around for a bit but decided to sign up since I’ve officially dipped my proverbial toe into the chastity waters! Although kink and fetishism aren’t new to me, I used to feel disinterested in chastity because it seemed like the main point was enjoying sex itself! With years of experience in latex and bondage, plus a play partner who enjoys having his subjects bound for long stretches, I’ve tried denial and edging before. He really liked my little latex chastity bag, so while I have some familiarity with the concept, I haven’t worn an actual device yet. It’s been growing on me, and two days ago I bought my first piece of equipment: a CB6000S. I’d also love to get a Birdlocked eventually, but since I could grab this one locally for instant gratification, it was the right choice. This forum has helped me prepare well for what’s ahead. So far so good, though there have been some surprises that I’ll likely share in the relevant subforums soon. A bit about my background: I’m a 44-year-old guy whose main passion is music. As a musician for three decades, I currently work at a local store selling and teaching instruments. Due to gigs and touring life not being ideal for sticking with one employer long-term, I’ve held various roles over the years. As my perspective on chastity has changed, I see its primary benefit as reducing natural sexual pressures during everyday activities. It serves as a physical reminder that it’s always available rather than just relying on mental willpower to keep things in check—not that there’s anything wrong with that approach; I’m not exactly sex-hungry anyway—but I feel it removes one layer of thought process, freeing up space for more pertinent concerns. Additionally, it might make sexual intimacy feel slightly further away since it feels less “normal” (common) than what most people experience, potentially narrowing the range of possible relationship dynamics. I’ve always been somewhat of a fashion Maverick, preferring alternative clothing both professionally in stage attire and personally throughout my life. Skirts, dresses, leggings, and tights have made up much of my wardrobe for years now without making me feel transgender or crossdressing; I don’t wear them to appear female or feminine. I identify as male and am content with that identity even if it’s not entirely by choice! While I might have preferred being born female, wanting the whole life experience from birth rather than just transitioning later means identifying at this stage feels slightly incomplete for what I’d ideally want—and I’m okay with that. Instead, I embrace feminine traits in my personality while appreciating masculine qualities too. I generally dislike rigid labels but admit they help us understand perceptions better. Pansexual seems to fit me best since gender doesn’t matter much; it’s about connecting with the person regardless of their sex. Some might call me bisexual because those who identify as pansexual often seem quite promiscuous, using the label casually for that lifestyle. Having dated men, women, and couples alike, I’ve seen common issues arise from poor communication or honesty across all types. As always, your mileage may vary; these are just my personal observations. Thanks for reading such a long post—I tend to be verbose! Grateful to be here hoping to give back as much as others have helped me on this journey!