Most of the time I don’t mind wearing the cage, or the general lack of PIV to completion that comes with it. We maintain a fulfilling sex life while I’m in the device. In fact, being caged adds so much more variety for @Thatgirl to choose from when she wants some fun. Sometimes her fun is mostly at my expense, which can be enjoyable too, though often quite challenging. Sometimes her fun is purely selfish and my only role is helping her reach an orgasm - also generally good for me, although sometimes she makes it tough (which might add to the enjoyment or just be a pure challenge). And other times, her fun includes everything.
But every so often I find myself simply wanting intercourse! It happens particularly on weekend mornings - I just want to roll over and have sex. Not being able to decide that is part of how this works, and the power it gives her is a key lever for her to use when she wants to play however she likes. I understand this now, and thankfully I’ve mostly passed through the days where I had frequent doubts about continuing with chastity at all. She’s trained that out of me (for lack of a better term). It’s been long enough and she’s stayed strict enough that the cage just is what it is right now. It’s part of our life, and part of how I keep her happy. So passing doubts are indeed just passing. Where I might have once gotten stuck in a loop until I finally went to her and voiced my doubts, or desire to stay out of the device going forward, causing all sorts of turmoil, now it simply doesn’t bother me that way. And where she used to react nervously when behaviors of mine bucked against her control or resisted locking back up, she now tamps those down hard and fast, which helps ensure I don’t get stuck in that loop. So overall, I’ve come to accept that this is the way she wants it, and have learned to enjoy even the aspects I once could hardly bear. She’s embraced the freedom the cage/denial gives her to push limits and play whenever she likes, and I’ve accepted that as how our sex life operates, choosing to be thankful that she does indeed like using her control rather than just keeping me in there and calling it a day. I may just want intercourse, but it’s not quite so simple anymore - it’s more complicated, and more fun.
But god damn, sometimes I just wanna roll over and f*#k! End rant ☺️