Chastity device reviews discussion

Hi everyone, Since I’m new here, I hope this is the right place to post. I’ve bought three devices in succession because I wanted to try out chastity. But so far, none of them have suited me well, and now I wonder if there are any that would fit my specific situation. My penis tends to shrink significantly when flaccid but can still be quite substantial otherwise. My scrotum, on the other hand, is very stretchable. First up was the BON4M Small. It never felt fully filled (at all times). Daytime wear worked fine for me. However, I could still reach orgasm using devices with larger rings; my erection would push the device away rather than being held tight against me. Stimulating through the holes was straightforward. The smaller rings caused some discomfort during erections, so I didn’t really try to climax while wearing them. After a few nights, though, the pain became unbearable due to the device’s weight and nighttime erections pressing hard into my skin. I never actually managed an escape, but looking back, it seems like it was possible. Next came the HolyTrainer 2 Small. Escaping partially (without the balls) felt far too easy for me. Otherwise, it was quite comfortable, though—personally—I found it less hygienic than the BON4M. Also, my penis didn’t fill out much when flaccid in this one. Lastly, I ordered the Birdlocked Mini (40mm diameter), which is even smaller. I assumed the wider ring would make pulling out harder. Sadly, though, full escape was still easy for me. That’s when I began researching the different variations more closely. What I understood is that there are three main ways to increase security: adding a belt, using a urethral plug, or getting a piercing. Personally, none of these appeal much to me right now. The context here is that I don’t currently have a mistress who can supervise me regularly enough (for example, handling device changes between day and night). So, does this mean I’m stuck? Am I overlooking something simple? What experiences or advice do you all have? Thanks in advance for any insights!