I am married and in my young-middle age years, while my wife is as traditional as they come. Over our eight-year marriage, she has shown a playful willingness to indulge fantasies—she’s open to trying new things—but I’m not entirely sure if her interest goes deeper than that. The activities we do include spanking, hand or foot bondage, blindfolds, gags, pegging, nipple pinching, and more. We text frequently to build up the mood. While we’ve discussed chastity and orgasm denial, neither of us has bought a device yet. Recently, however, she’s mentioned wishing she had one on me after I’ve satisfied her with her toys, just so she can be certain I go to bed unsatisfied and frustrated. She isn’t keen on pornography or pictures in general, nor has she ever cared for affairs outside the marriage.
During our “play” chats, she often remarks that my penis might not be large enough to truly satisfy her. I don’t believe she always felt this way, but as we’ve introduced vibrators and dildos twice my size over time, I suspect she feels it about my ability to please her during actual sex more than just the sexual charge of playtimes. She does use them on me regularly, though she rarely masturbates alone; her reactions to these devices are very different—much more uninhibited compared to how she reacts during intercourse.
She doesn’t know and would likely be mortified if she found out I’m here sharing our situation with others, but since it’s anonymous, I see no harm. The main reason I joined is that she struggles coming up with independent ideas for sexual play involving me being submissive or practicing chastity. She claims to lack creativity in this area. While she begs me for ideas, it lacks some fun for me when the suggestions are all mine. She generally complies with what I propose, but I kind of know what’s coming that way, lol. It feels like topping from the bottom without really wanting to.
So,
I am wondering if people here would be willing to submit ideas for her. I don’t think she will sign up herself, though I’m not sure yet. My hope is that at least some members (who are willing) can email their ideas directly to me, which she could use as a base for scenarios or lifestyle options distinct from my own imagination. I haven’t decided on the best implementation method other than asking here. Hopefully, either she will log in eventually or agree to have these emails sent her way.
Any suggestions? This is a sincere request from a happily married man who enjoys submitting to his wife more than perhaps she desires it herself, but she remains open to experimentation. (Note - we have three children under six years old, so time and privacy can sometimes be tricky, but we are dedicated to letting that not kill our desire for sex and fun with our sexuality.)