My wife was keen on me taking a break from chastity until the end of September because of skin issues and just getting tired of wearing my Jailbird, plus we’d fallen into a rut. Today she told me to lock up again since I’ve been quite grouchy now that she’s let me go free range. She had a long, intense orgasm today and gave me one that was ruined for me as well. Lately, she’s been giving me too many ruined ones because when she pulls her hand away, I can start ejaculating just seconds later, which makes it tricky for her to tell if it counts or not. Before, I wouldn’t cum right after she removed her hand. Now it happens 5-10 seconds afterwards, and I’m not sure why this changed suddenly. Any thoughts?
We’re still sticking with our original plan, but we just kicked it off a bit earlier. We’re using holidays and special occasions as loose targets since they happen roughly a month apart, though my orgasm can come before or after those dates—it’s up to my wife whether she counts them or not. We’ll likely take a few breaks during the year to let the skin on my scrotum heal back to normal. It’s amazing how much more comfortable my Jailbird feels now that everything is healed. The irritation wasn’t terrible, just slight but constant. The main issue was that my balls got sore where they rested against the ring after a few months, giving me this bruised sensation.
Anyway, we’re going to have breaks of about one or two weeks between orgasms. As my wife put it today, it should be fun for both of us.
Since we aren’t doing this in a D/s dynamic, it’s more like a playful sexual game for us. She makes the sole call on when and how we have sex, and that’s final. Outside the bedroom, though, things are just as they’ve always been in our marriage.