I’ve had a long-standing interest in chastity and own multiple devices: a CB-6000, PA-5000, various other metal pieces, plus a Lori model for the PA. While single, I used to engage with chastity play but rarely stayed locked longer than a day, sometimes even mailing the key away myself. Being crafty, I’m quite skilled at creating and escaping from contraptions; most plastic devices are easy enough to defeat. The Lori tube feels the most secure of them all, though it doesn’t fit me perfectly—it tends to tug on my piercing and is rather heavy.
A couple of years ago, I married a naturally submissive partner (actually quite slave-like), and we’re doing well. A few months back, I felt a pull toward chastity play again. After discussing it with her, she expressed interest in trying as well. We experimented with several devices, but none felt truly secure to me. However, after tweaking the Lori tube, I find it wearable now. I re-drilled the PA pin hole further back to prevent pulling and sealed off the front gap, leaving only a small opening for the pin to enhance security. Previously, I could pull my glans out through the slot or pop the pin; now, removal requires either the key or cutting the locks with a Dremel.
Like many men new to chastity, I wanted to dive straight into the deep end and remain locked for a full month on my first attempt. Quickly though, I realized my wife needed more time to adjust than I had anticipated—this was all quite new for her. She did some research and discovered Sarah Jameson’s website, which provided valuable insights.
Over the last few weeks, we’ve experimented with different periods of chastity, yielding mostly positive results despite some rough patches. Since we love each other deeply, we managed to work through those difficulties.
We settled on a month-long agreement: during this period, I would either wear my chastity device, don locking clothing that restricts access, or remain under direct supervision when neither option was feasible. The Lori tube has proven the most effective so far; initially, I wore it for days at a time before taking breaks. Last week, we completed four consecutive days straight. She briefly removed it because she felt my hygiene wasn’t quite up to par, giving me a day off. It went back on the next day, and I’ve been meticulous about cleaning after bathroom trips. So far, I’ve endured four full days, with plans for five or six in this current stretch.
Adapting to being locked inside the metal tube around-the-clock is no small feat. Sleeping can be challenging (I rely on over-the-counter sleep aids now—they work wonders), and physical movement feels somewhat restricted. Prolonged periods leave my body sore, but these discomforts usually subside overnight, leaving me refreshed each morning.
Our month-long agreement wraps up in roughly two weeks, and I’m unsure what comes next—we might continue or take a break instead.
I should mention that within our relationship dynamic, I hold the dominant role. My wife isn’t accustomed to being in charge but is putting forth significant effort to adapt. Outside of my private parts during this agreement, I remain firmly in control. While I am not submissive by nature, I do occasionally enjoy bottoming.
We’re exploring chastity for several reasons. First, it adds spice and a new dynamic to our already vibrant love life. Second, like many men, I tend to let web browsing lead to quick resolutions without much interaction afterward; this setup changes that pattern. Third, while sex with my wife is wonderful and deeply enjoyable, I often drift off immediately after orgasm. Post-climax, my interest in romance wanes slightly as I either sleep or focus on projects. When locked up, our intimate time lasts longer, allowing me to feel more connected to her.
I’d love to know if there are other naturally dominant men here experiencing a similar dynamic?