We could describe what Wonder Wife and I are doing as a journey---or more accurately, a casual jog around the block every now and then. After some initial mistakes on my part, things have stabilized. She doesn’t let me wear any of the devices to bed unless she’s away or if I sleep in the guest room. However, I prefer staying in our shared bed despite the trade-offs; there isn’t enough worth losing that proximity for a spare room experience. When she has been out overnight on a couple of occasions recently, I wore my cb6000 during those nights.
The advice given when starting out—that “you can’t just strap it on and forget it”” holds true. Adjusting to the slight discomfort caused by nighttime erections will take some time.
She doesn’t dictate which device I wear, keeping the keys in my own hands myself. It hasn’t been a disappointment as expected; surprisingly, she has developed a preference for one specific tool. She is thoroughly enjoying using the birdlocked punisher to torment me, making it my favorite choice as well. One of her initial concerns was that I might become too pushy about wanting more teasing while wearing a device (which was fair, since I have been pestering in this regard even without one). Interestingly enough, over the last few weeks, if she knows I am sporting the punisher, she teases me mercilessly. There were actually a couple of days recently where I chose not to wear it—I needed relief from the head sensitivity it brings—though I doubt my tolerance will improve much over time.
She truly surprised me a few nights ago by asking that I leave the punisher on while getting ready for bed. It turned out she had planned an extended CBT session around this setup. By the time she was done with me, I was so spent that she took possession of the key—after removing the lock and pulling off the device, I experienced an orgasm all over her hands. I can’t recall seeing her laugh quite so hard in years, perhaps not even once during our entire marriage.