Hello all. I’m Hayley, a 23-year-old crossdresser with… well, very little experience in vanilla sex or dating. This puts me in a unique position, especially since I’ve recently started exploring this chastity fetish (more on that shortly). Other interests include diapers, bondage, SM/CBT, latex, and sissification/forced fem (not strictly forced, but I enjoy the concept of being controlled). Currently, I have a CB-6000S. My primary goal here is to seek advice regarding some hurdles in building my experience.
The core issue involves having a keyholder. At this stage, I don’t want a long-term keyholder unless it’s part of a committed relationship (not just a 24/7 lifestyle). I’ve worn the device for short periods before, but simply holding the keys—even without using them immediately—doesn’t quite click for me. Part of the appeal lies in giving up access to something that was once habitual (masturbation) while constantly being reminded of this abstinence. Fortunately, my best friend is also my roommate; we are very open about our sexual lives and interests. She has no trouble holding my key and ensuring I complete self-imposed tasks, but those tasks and their duration must be chosen by me—she acts as an enabler rather than a dominant partner. Joining in the erotic side would feel like cheating on her boyfriend to some extent. I’ve worn the device for more than a few hours only a couple of times so far, usually managing one short shift at work (on my days off it stays on). It’s too mentally distracting during work hours right now; I want to… improve that aspect—so I’m gradually increasing the time day by day.
My challenge is setting achievable tasks. The first was shaving my legs; next up might be my torso and perhaps arms? I need a method for shaving my butt area. Another planned task involves buying more lingerie, dressing as a female (I prefer forced fem/transformation over drag-like sissification), and keeping panties and a bra on at all times while caged. However, the tasks shouldn’t just involve purchasing items; they must have substance too. I’m not rushing toward the milestone of “finding a romantic partner who participates.” Therefore, I wondered if there is perhaps some precedent or a list of ideas that could assist me.
I also have questions about my chosen device, the CB-6000S. I believed choosing the smallest option was correct; however, I am literally just too small for it. Unless I maintain an undercurrent of awareness regarding my cage, my dick eventually becomes soft enough to sit barely past the ventilation holes (even with the smallest spacer), and I’ve accidentally slid out of the tube, allowing one testicle to escape the ring (I don’t know how either). This requires re-seating everything, which ruins the waiting period. I plan perhaps to dremel down the ring slightly where the second base piece fits, enabling me to skip that part and connect the tube directly to the ring and base piece with posts (also adding a hole on one of my spare locking posts to accommodate this size reduction). Yes, I really am quite small. I’ve also seen the KSD G3 but worry it might be too large as well. Did I miss another option better suited for me? One favorite aspect of chastity is the tightness of my dick straining against the device; it’s comforting in a way (Freud would likely say this reminds him of the womb, which explains why I want to murder his uncle or something).
I’m also interested in others’ experiences regarding pubic hair and chastity, especially stubble regrowth and avoiding ingrown hairs. My hair is heavy and thick enough that stubble appears within a day of shaving. Even if I don’t plan* on going much longer than a week, I want to avoid having my dick covered in ingrown hairs or suffering from razorburn due to excessive shaving. And no, I’m not waxing or using Nair on my fetish areas, thank you very much. How do you handle this? Is there an unknown hair removal technique?
Thanks for reading! I’d appreciate any advice I can get, including where specifically to post some of these questions and whatnot. *Planning because my roommate briefly scared me when it was time to return the keys; she gave me a split-second fright with “this can’t be the one masturbation fantasy that actually comes true, right?” as she played up her newfound power and leverage. But that was also a huge turn-on. Both because she’s the first person I’d give the key to (knowing she may never return it) and because if her boyfriend weren’t so terrible regarding open relationships, I might have a girlfriend who is down with my kinks—or perhaps roommate-friends-who-are-also-my-owners (assuming he goes along with it).