Hello everyone,
My fiancée wants me to be a more passionate lover. I consider myself “normal, with masochistic tendencies and a chastity fetish”, which she is aware of. She doesn’t necessarily get involved in the SM side herself; she knows I enjoy it greatly and has plenty of toys for that purpose, but she isn’t too bothered by it. Instead, she keeps insisting that I act like a “passionate lover”—something Latin, animalistic, and full of lust.
Honestly, at 35 years old, I’m not entirely sure what she means. I’ve searched the terms online but haven’t found much helpful information yet.
So here is my question: What exactly constitutes a “passionate lover”? And how does one qualify as such?
This also raises another point: can someone who is “normal, with masochistic tendencies and a chastity fetish” still be considered so during sex?
Is there a specific code of conduct or script for being a “passionate lover”? I asked my fiancée, and she said that men just need to follow their animal instincts. Personally, I don’t feel like I have those instincts very strongly. What I do experience is a strong urge to kneel when I see an attractive lady in high-heel boots, but I’m not certain if this fits the “Latin lover” or “passionate lover” image.
Sorry if these questions seem silly; I really don’t know what else to think, and my current situation regarding intimacy is quite frustrating.
Any thoughts?