To start, I’d like to share some background on my sub and me. We’ve been together for three years now. Before this relationship, I had endured two terrible marriages where I was constantly controlled. When he came into my life and we began our intimate connection moving forward, he made it clear that he wanted to hand over the reins of control in our relationship—something I’d never experienced before. Early on, he shared his desire to dress femininely and be worn with a strap-on. Although I was quite sheltered, we launched into our partnership with an open mind regarding sexuality. We began using the strap-on, which I adored, followed by feminine attire that I also loved. Over time, we’ve explored many different forms of domination and submission. For instance, he has spent up to two weeks locked in a CB-6000 (with brief breaks here and there due to soreness on his shaft). Around the two-week point each cycle, he tends to become very emotional and doubts my interest in our D/s lifestyle. Recently—today—he expressed a desire to stop entirely after we had a long talk last night where he felt I was losing interest as per usual, claiming I show no curiosity about learning new things. Finally, I laid down the law: from now on, he will take on more household duties so that his mistress has time to connect with other mistresses for advice or simply enjoy her own pursuits; he agreed last night. Today, while home trying to complete the list of tasks I left him, he didn’t appreciate it and lashed out again, wanting everything to stop. I really hope my fellow mistresses can offer some guidance on how to move forward without regressing. We both know this is what we want, but I’m unsure how to make it stick because this back-and-forth dynamic is exhausting. Any help would be appreciated.
Special note: This pattern always occurs around the two-week mark, and when he cums, he becomes utterly unbearable. I told him his mindset still revolves around getting what he wants; he believes he has a right to an opinion, whereas I tried explaining that this is no longer true. However, I need something to wake him up and shake him so he realizes it.