Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello all, Most of us on CM have been doing this longer than we have, but I’ve had my lock for up to twenty days. The trade-off is nearly nightly ruined orgasms, whether or not the cage stays on. I’m using a CB Curve because I run toward the bigger end of the spectrum. It feels quite comfortable, especially considering my only other reference point was a small Chinese model that was a real struggle to put in. After reading some advice here about painful morning erections during those first few nights with the Curve, I realized my base ring might be too tight. Once I swapped it for CB’s largest available option, the nighttime pain vanished. Now, when nocturnal erections hit, there’s no sharp pain—just a strong pull that feels pretty good. The usual advice is to get up and urinate to resolve these erections, which works well enough. The trouble arises because while he’s pressed firmly inside the cage during arousal, my urethra practically seals shut. I have to pace around to calm him down until he relaxes a bit before attempting to go. Then comes the struggle: squeezing hard for that initial spurt and repeating it until the bladder is empty. Am I experiencing this more than others? Is there a specific solution out there? Should my cage be tighter so there’s zero room for growth, or is the diameter too narrow and in need of enlargement? We’ve considered models with urethral tubes, but as mentioned, we’re still fairly new to chastity. Appreciate your thoughts!