Apologies for posting this question here and in my journal simultaneously, but I’m giving it a go. Has anyone dealt with the hurdle of having a partner who didn’t understand denial during POV?
Did you just have to wait for time to pass, or could you convince her that you really want to do it for her benefit, and that she will get plenty of reward in return?
> Fatkid57626 said: > Here is where I am looking for perspective, experiences, and "here is what I did" stories if you had this to overcome. She does not believe in denial when it comes to intimacy. Teasing, yes, but not in the case of actual PIV. She actually gets teasing now, and does find it amusing, but she feels that if I make it that far that I could release, it is nature to let myself go. How have you conveyed in the past to a partner of similar mind that you really do wish to put them first? I have tried to explain that I don't want to go through drop and end up not treating her appropriately while I recover for lack of better term. > Click to expand... Putting her first means giving her what she wants, even if it contradicts with your desires and evaluation of the situation. If she doesn't mind your drop, you're just going to have to deal with it. Trying to change her mind is classic topping from the bottom.