hi everyone. I’m relatively new to this but have a few questions and concerns. my wife is getting more dominant by the day. when we first started dating, our sex life was fairly traditional. intercourse plus some foreplay pretty much covered what happened in the bedroom. over the past 7 years she has become increasingly d0minant both at home and out there. she recently said she wants a relationship where women are fully in control, so if I’m staying with her, things need to shift. lots have changed already; our sex life was good and it’s only gotten better. I basically do everything for her now. I handle most household chores, go grocery shopping when we run low on supplies, cook dinner regularly, and am usually the one getting up to fetch items instead of her doing it herself. honestly, I can live with that. actually, I feel like women should lead in many areas of a relationship. men only really need to step up for physical protection or safety matters. otherwise, women seem to manage daily life better and make sounder decisions on the whole. I adore her.
Lately though, she wants to completely overhaul our sex life. She claims I’m a better husband when I don’t get sexual release. I argued that men need to let go of their semen occasionally or it builds up and becomes quite frustrating. Plus, holding it in for too long isn’t great for prostate health from a medical standpoint. She’s asked around about this and learned that men just need to clear the buildup without necessarily ejaculating fully. Since she finds me more attentive when I’m sexually frustrated, she wants me in that state as much as possible. To put it plainly…she wants to milk my prostate and let the semen drain out while keeping me from reaching orgasm. My heart sank at this news, especially since she bought a chastity device for me and slipped it on while I was asleep!!
YES THAT’S RIGHT! I woke up with morning wood and it hurt like crazy. She milked me that morning but said I won’t get another release like that unless it’s Sunday evening, which she has designated as the time to drain my semen out permanently without taking off the cage. She was also very clear: I must consume my own semen as a tribute to her power and authority. I love her and know this is necessary; otherwise, I’d find some way to release on my own for sure. We argued about it but she’s not letting me go ever again. She believes men don’t need frequent orgasms if any at all, viewing them mostly as gifts for the w0man’s pleasure. The only exception would be if the w0woman is trying to conceive; otherwise, a male can ejaculate internally… I’d do anything for her but this really hurts when I get hard. I asked how we’ll continue having sex for her enjoyment now that things are changing. She bought some accessories to replace my penis in the bedroom context—something facial like a dildo and also a strapon so she can still have intercourse with me. Obviously, she wears the pants here and I trust her judgment generally, but I’m not crazy about this specific arrangement. So I’m here asking: is this the start of our b.d.s.m life? Should I expect even more changes ahead? I’m feeling uneasy about how frustrating my days might become from now on.