As I noted in my intro post, MrsL and I have dabbled with chastity off and on for a few years without much success. Usually, I’d find plenty of excuses to get unlocked, or she would lose interest because I was always making them up. Often, I’d bring it up and she’d reluctantly agree. This time, though, I tried something different.
I had fallen back into my habit of masturbating at least once a day and realized I wasn’t paying enough attention to MrsL’s needs. So, I started small by offering her bubble baths with foot massages two nights a week. Sometime after New Year’s, while massaging her feet, I asked if she’d be willing to try chastity again… She looked me straight in the eye and said yes without hesitation. I was surprised by how quickly she agreed but also a little nervous about what would happen next. We ordered the Bon4 that same night. It arrived a few days later, and we spent about a week getting it fitted just right…then, just before she headed off on a 5-day cruise with her sisters in early February, she clicked the lock shut, smiled, and told me to “have fun…” I had never been locked for more than two days at a time before, so this was going to be a real test. When she got back, I asked if she had any questions and offered her some Kindle books on male chastity, which she agreed to read. Our lives have changed ever since…for the better.
Aside from unlocking me for CrossFit workouts, MrsL has established a very firm 24/7 tone for my chastity…I do CF three days a week when I’m not traveling, which gives me regular opportunities for cleaning and shaving. Granted, it’s only been two months, but I am much more attentive to ensuring she is sexually satisfied at least daily (when I’m home) as well as tackling the “honey do’s” that have piled up over the years. MrsL has realized the power of T&D and allowed me only 2 orgasms so far. I’ve been unlocked, teased, and locked back up regularly without release, yet I still only had two…I guess I’m lucky?!?!:D This morning marked my second orgasm after a CF session. I walked into our bedroom heading for the shower. MrsL was still in bed with her freshly pedicured feet sticking out from under the duvet. She invited me to join her, and we had the best PIV sex we’ve had in ages. At one point, she asked how it felt and if I was ready to cum…I replied that it felt awesome and yes…but then she said “just so we are clear…you are not allowed an orgasm,” which nearly made me lose my mind. After a few more minutes…she wryly added ”…April Fool’s…you can have your orgasm” . After CrossFit and making love (okay, maybe that’s cheesy but it’s true) to MrsL with a full release, I collapsed into her arms. We lay there for several minutes just enjoying each other. What a great way to start the day!
I am so grateful to MrsL for fully embracing our new lifestyle. She even asked me to order a custom-fit device, and we settled on the Steelworxx Steelheart…her choice, not mine. I was leaning toward the Contender, but MrsL doesn’t want any of “me” showing off. I’m not sure exactly when or how we’ll get the measurements done yet, but we will. This is our new journey in life. The longest period of continuous lock-up for me so far has been only 8 days while traveling, and unlike previous attempts, I am no longer making up excuses to put my Bon4 back on. MrsL has even commented on that fact. I willingly and without prompting always put on my chastity cage after being unlocked, for any reason, and she has decided that I will never know exactly when or if she’ll unlock me…or allow an orgasm.
Today, as the lock clicked, she looked at me and smiled…that is all I needed to realize this is the right path for us!