Hello Everyone,
Well, following suggestions from the Forum Members (especially Dev), today marked my final orgasm for a full year. I’ll elaborate on that shortly, but first, I want to restate the purpose of this thread. Please treat this “Case Study” as an interactive exchange regarding my year in chastity. Unlike a blog where a couple shares their experiences—which is already being done nicely by Dev, Sarah Jameson, Thumper, and others—I hope this thread offers members a chance to directly influence a husband who is kept chaste by his wife.
Accordingly, I ask that you all help keep me accountable: make appropriate requests, ask for relevant statistics, participate in experiments, etc. (For instance, I suspect I may need to demonstrate that I am actually locked and show that my wife is truly participating, perhaps through photos or similar means; the key point is gathering input from others.)
Regarding that orgasm: Dev suggested I have one last orgasm before getting locked up. Her interest lay in discovering what happens mentally when you know your final orgasm is coming after a long time away. Boy! Was she right! I discussed this with my wife yesterday, telling her the group preferred I cum prior to starting the year. She said she would think it over and decide today (Sunday). Her decision was to give me a handjob until completion.
The feelings involved were very revealing: First, the handjob felt somewhat perfunctory. My wife doesn’t derive much pleasure from my orgasm, so her actions were more about starting the clock at “zero” for the year. Second, I want to mention that while the experience was good, it wasn’t truly “mind-blowing.” Even though my previous one was only two weeks ago, this one felt fairly ordinary (though still enjoyable). Third, it is hard to explain the mental state when you are being stroked and know it will be your last time for the next 12 months. Do I try to make it last? Did my wife rush me? For the record, I just barely outlasted what many would call premature ejaculation. Within two minutes, I was coating my belly with semen. My wife quickly got up, and soon we were heading out on a bike ride. It is amazing that when you don’t fully control your orgasms, knowing what lies ahead does little to change the outcome. She MADE me cum according to her schedule…that’s all there was to it.
Now for Dev’s strong recommendation: What a cunning idea! I am writing this with post-orgasmic fatigue (all you men know exactly what that means). This low makes me hesitant about getting locked up; I wonder if I should sneak in a masturbation session without my wife knowing, or consider changing the start date to next month. Trust me, signing up for a year of chastity is 1000% harder immediately after cumming. The horny buzz has vanished (for now), and “reason” is jumping out of my brain. Man, it would have been much easier to start this year WITHOUT cumming.
But what sort of man would I be if I backed out now? So here goes…a full year with the lock up starting tomorrow morning (Nov. 1st).
Thank you all in advance for your support and participation. David