Female led relationships discussion

I’m still very much learning my way in the keyholder role and, while I’m becoming more confident with dominating my partner, I find it tricky to wrap my head around all that cross-dressing & sissyfying talk. He was the one who wanted me locked up in chastity, but he hasn’t said anything else about it beyond that basic routine of tease & denial which seems to be improving over time for me. I just wondered where the whole business with household chores and dressing up comes from. Does it stem more from us subs or is it driven by keyholder partners? Even though I keep telling myself I’m in charge so my word should carry weight, I really don’t know how he’d react if I proposed these ideas - nor am I certain whether seeing him like that would bring me much joy. Presumably the focus lies on controlling or humiliating the sub rather than just giving pleasure to the mistress?