First off, I want to greet everyone. I’ve been lurking here for a long time but decided it was high time to give back to this community that has helped me so much. It’s been invaluable in keeping my perspective grounded and reinning in my fantasies when they start running wild.
As the title hints, my girlfriend of 30 years (wife for 22) and Mistress for four have finally found a formula—what I believe—to maximize my constant obedience to her. Each month consists of 20 sexually active days and 10 PMS/Period days. During those 10 days, I must wear the birdcage so she can share in HER discomfort. Unlike some other subs here, I actually dislike wearing it, but I love doing it for her. After the 10 days are up, I get released.
The following 20 days are what this is really about (apologies for the lengthy intro).
I should mention that becoming a full-blown submissive has made intercourse with my Mistress largely unappealing to me because I prefer satisfying her orally. There’s something about penetrating and pleasuring her in that way that rubs me the wrong way, unless it’s clear we both know I’ve earned it. Mostly, though, I feel like I’ve betrayed her afterward until I see her smile at me. With our busy schedules and kids, planning sex is pretty much mandatory. Because of this, every Tuesday during those 20 days, I am required to have intercourse with my Mistress EXACTLY as she directs. ANY deviation results in punishment via the cage or worse yet, something coming up later. The only real perk for me on Tuesdays is that it pleases my Mistress immensely when we orgasm together. We’ve been together a long time, and this release brings her comfort.
Saturdays during these 20 days are where I get what I need to be a better servant for her.
Usually, there are two Saturdays. The first one is for rewarding me and acknowledging special things I may have done. If I haven’t accomplished anything significant, I am allowed to satisfy her orally while she enjoys her vibrators and large dildos (she has become quite the size queen), but I cannot enter her. I always hope to get a turn on these Saturdays. Even though I’m now a total sub, I’m still a man; after a month of waiting, I just want in. Being allowed shows I’ve been well-behaved, which feels good for everyone. This is the exception where intercourse with her still feels wonderful. If I am not permitted, I know I haven’t distinguished myself enough and must live with that knowledge and the ache of nothing special happening. If I have behaved badly, I remain locked in my cage during all this. Naturally, this motivates me to be the servant she wants and do those little extras that make her happy. It is on these Saturdays that I might be allowed to orgasm. My last permission was March 10, 2012, after distinguishing myself well the previous Saturday. That’s not a long time in the grand scheme, but my previous release had been November 19, 2011—a mercy for my birthday.
The second Saturday focuses on her reminding me who is boss. Mistress wears her FULL outfit: PVC Corset, skirt, thigh boots, and opera gloves. She looks like something out of every submissive’s deepest fantasy. She loves knowing she embodies those fantasies but keeps herself from me as forbidden fruit. Meanwhile, I am required to wear Mike’s Spikes. Most often, I just watch Mistress enjoy her toys after spending 5-10 minutes preparing her orally. These sessions can last HOURS! They force me to discipline myself against getting too excited or touching my own crotch. IF I behave well, I get the option of being locked in my cage instead of wearing Mike’s Spikes and may be allowed to pleasure her orally for longer. That is the best-case scenario for that Saturday. Additionally, after she is satisfied, I am locked in my cage until Sunday night without exception.
All this has made sex somewhat undesirable yet deeply desired by me, which is honestly how it needs to remain. These double-edged swords are where I find happiness. It has also turned Mistress into an insatiable sexual goddess; the transition wasn’t too long of a journey for her, but she is much more comfortable and at ease now. We have tried hundreds of things over the last few years, and when I finally left everything in her hands, she found our formula.
I hope this was thought-provoking for some, and I welcome any suggestions or tweaks you might offer. We love experimenting and refining this part of our relationship together.
Thanks for listening.