For the last few years my sex life has been mostly masturbation, often three to four times a week or more, which is how it’s always been since I hit puberty. Usually I use an expanding collection of content downloaded from online sources. Ninety-five percent of the time I like extra stimulation from something inserted in my butt; my top choice is a pacifier for the bottom—I thread a cord through its handle and pull on it with one hand while stroking my member with the other. This setup lets me enjoy long edging sessions while watching my favorite fetish porn films! I am in my late 50s, healthy, with a naturally high sex drive and strong libido throughout life. I have been married several times and experienced many interesting sexual moments over the years. Currently single without a partner, which explains the frequent self-pleasure; plus, if something feels good, I crave more of it. Like in my marriages and relationships, I’ve always sought that little bit extra—something better or different—which leads me to introduce myself…
Maybe someday I’ll find my soul mate, but for a few months now I’ve been dreaming about pushing the edge with something new, taboo, and totally out of the ordinary, beyond anything I’ve known. Thoughts have tantalized me about finding something that stretches my personal limits and takes desire right to the brink! I am heterosexual and have acted as the dominant partner in D/s dynamics for the past 20 years. Every girlfriend during this period has experienced spanking from me. I’ve participated publicly at lifestyle events and privately at parties. My rule is simple: if it feels good, do it; if it messes with your head, leave it alone! Even though I’m open-minded, I wonder: could I give up control to someone else? Honestly… yes, I think so… can… will. Consider it a point of honor that the Knight serves the Queen, keeping him occupied with his duties! The prize… being unlocked! I live in a big city and feel confident finding someone within the local BDSM community who could act as at least a surrogate key holder for chastity. I’m also considering finding a kinky couple to join in, releasing me every week or so just from having them touch me, or perhaps being allowed—or required—by them to engage in their more unusual sexual activities! For about a year now I’ve had bisexual fantasies that I believe will eventually compel action with the right couple and situation after some time locked up. Add some humiliation into the mix and it gets even better! I feel ready to go almost any distance for sexual release! I’ll likely become an eager, active participant with minimal encouragement, willing to do most anything for a small reward of pleasure in a sane & consensual setting. About three years ago, an ex-girlfriend took my ass with a strap-on (feeldoe). Each time she used the strap-on while I jacked off produced the strongest orgasms ever. No doubt! I know I enjoy anal penetration. My prostate likes stimulation too; I’ve read about milking for years, downloaded many movies on the subject, and find them fully energizing sexually. I’m sure whatever I seek will be found in a Key Holder. Meanwhile, I’ll measure up for a device and start wearing it. Perhaps eventually I’ll discover ongoing dynamics with my significant other as Key Holder. I am very open to exploring this deeply as I consider the symbolism and reality of surrendering the key!
I’ll keep telling my story… (Everyone has one!) A few weeks ago I bought a medical TENS/EMS Unit with some extra features for sexual play. The unit uses low electrical current. Changes in conductivity alter the sensations felt. The idea is that currents at just the right rate and volume trick the nervous system into thinking you are being fucked. After all, isn’t it the brain that makes you come? When the nerves send the fuck signal, the brain triggers orgasm: fooling your nervous system creates all the sensation. Practice helps find your ideal setting. It feels so good no one minds the effort.
Sites dedicated to e-stimming report case after case of HFO (Hands Free Orgasm). Some say they get orgasms 19 out of 20 times using a Tens Unit. Note there are also units designed specifically for sex, simulating thrusting and stroking sensations. Playing with my new unit has given me wonderful feelings! I even bought a “penis plug with glans ring”; it goes about 1-½ inches into the urethra and stays put behind the head of my circumcised cock thanks to its narrow ring; the hollow body keeps the sphincter open, so when stimulated pre-cum drips continuously from the tip. At first I grimaced at putting something in my urethra, but after sterilizing and lubing it was easy. The pleasure is exquisite when attaching an alligator clip to it and connecting via another electrode in the butt for prostate stimulation. Adjusting power lets me focus on the cock head or prostate or both. Sessions last one or two hours; I once did three! I note the start time, but because the experience is so delightful… time just floats by. I bought various electrodes from specialized electro-sex sites. After my Tens Unit arrived in mail, I played with it almost every evening for about 3 weeks. Not quite getting that elusive “Hands Free Orgasm” yet, someone suggested abstinence before trying again! This made me think of Tease & Denial since I have sexual thoughts several times daily—the kinkier the better! Right! My path went from Tease & Denial points to Chastity…
I followed the advice to stop my near-daily masturbation and am happy to report today is Day 15 without orgasm, last one being June 30th. That’s when I stumbled upon Male Chastity sites while searching “Tease & Denial”. This site holds a treasure trove of info. After reading for days, I chose a Mature Metal Steel Chastity Device; the Queens Keep looks very interesting for long term lock up! Immersed in being locked and denied orgasms, I desire to enjoy what you call intense releases when allowed! The more I read and research, the more turned on by chastity I become. No date set yet, but within days I plan an e-stimming session with my Tens Unit using the “Penis Plug with Glans Ring” plus maybe a steel anal electrode. Turning up power while watching erotic porn, I’ll give myself about an hour to see what happens. If I get a Hands Free Orgasm, great; if not… after an hour, I stop! Frustrated but continuing self-imposed abstinence and evening tease/denial sessions. Some nights I wear the Penis Plug for chastity as you are not go
I’m in the process of getting my cock stroked using standard methods, with a piece of steel positioned inside my urethra. I actually slept wearing it for one night and think I can wear it while inside the chastity device I plan to buy! Additionally, I’ve banned myself from touching my penis directly and am keeping contact to an absolute minimum, although occasionally I have cheated by giving it a little stroke as a tease. My primary focus is on anal stimulation as my sole source of pleasure… up until now, this approach has carried me through 15 days of self-denial. My testicles definitely feel fuller, and yes, desire fills me… but I’m not yielding to impulse; instead, I am exercising self-control. Why do I feel proud about that? I can’t quite say! But the feeling is there! I’ll confess that my craving for an orgasm increases every day, with sexual thoughts becoming more common. This is fueled by reading this site and others, along with daily extended anal play and teasing myself. I’m attempting to see how it all connects: Can I generate enough motivation through self-teasing and prostate stimulation while in self-denial to practice chastity as a solo locker? The past 15 days have been experimental specifically for that goal, during which I practiced stimulating my prostate daily. I own the “Ass Lock Cock Ring,” which serves as an arousal tool. This ring comes with four Anal Balls (25mm, 30mm, 35mm, and 40mm). To get a more intense sensation, I bought two larger, heavier balls: 45mm and 50mm. To illustrate the size range, the biggest one has a diameter of 2 inches and weighs over 18 ounces, while the smallest is about 1 inch in diameter and under 4 ounces. These have helped stretch my anus to fit an 8-inch lifelike dildo, which I can now insert easily. Women advertising in Personal Ads often look for cocks that measure 8-inches, so that’s what I secured! They want satisfaction; I want it too! LOL My first time trying the insertion, I set a timer for 30 minutes to keep the dildo inside, but it ended up being an hour of sitting and shifting on it while watching some favorite porn. Throughout this, I didn’t touch or stroke my cock, yet still observed and tried to maximize enjoyment through my backside, just as if I were locked in chastity. Actually, I’m using a mindful meditation technique to savor each heightened sensation moment by moment! I’ve realized that bigger isn’t always better; the 35 mm Ass Lock ball anatomically provides the best prostate stimulation for me. By pulling the cock ring at the base of my penis, it rolls the inserted stainless steel ball over the prostate, allowing me to adjust pressure on the p-spot. I’m sure I’ve located that special spot and know this specific ball will become a favorite pleasurable milking tool as I produce some fluid while practicing this new pleasure. Based on everything described, there have been moments where I actually said out loud, “I can’t believe how good this feels!” (Whether it’s the Tens unit, the ass lock, the penis plug, dildo, or other tools). I’ve worn the Ass Lock for a few hours to all day, once even up to 18 hours with just a short bathroom break. I’ve taken it to the library, church, shopping trips, and even an outdoor music festival. While the crowd swayed to jazz, my own internal rocking continued right in my ass as my prostate was teased by every movement of mine; I moved along with the rhythm’s ebb and flow! Back home, every couple of hours I add a few drops of lube when needed because slight discomfort signals it’s necessary. At home, I sometimes pause near a chair at the right height to hover over it and rub the rod between my cock and anus, momentarily simulating being teased and ass-fucked. By the way, I’m wearing it now with the 45 mm ball—that’s about a 1-¾ inch diameter and roughly 13 oz. Each movement in my chair is felt… It never lets you forget its presence. Walking around feels like your backside is being fingered and licked. You’ve all seen sex toys marketed with big promises that often fall short… Well, the Ass Lock Cock Ring is definitely worth considering. It could likely be worn during chastity periods… though it must be removed when nature calls. While walking, it moves wonderfully against the prostate constantly. I’ve had mine for about 8 weeks and gradually increased ball size each week until inserting the largest. I have ejaculated with it on; each stroke marvelously stimulates me anally… Again, I’m speaking out loud: “I can’t believe how good this feels!” There are several mornings when enjoying coffee where I start yearning to get up and go to the bedroom to insert the Ass Lock. I felt like something was missing… I craved feeling that cold steel ball enter me… I felt empty without it… I couldn’t believe these thoughts were crossing my mind first thing in the morning! It was a powerful urge… and each time, immediately… I satisfied my craving by getting exactly what I wanted… Soon after, I start the day with the Ass Lock on, enjoying the pleasure in my backside! I once missed wearing it overnight and subconsciously looked for it first thing upon waking. Also worth noting: during daytime outings, engaging others in conversation while movement creates wonderfully teasing anal sensations is interesting; you smile at them, but they don’t know why? You might experience this same dynamic while wearing your chastity devices! It’s a lot of fun… But do not leave home without lube! I learned that lesson on a long afternoon walk. LOL Now returning to my reconditioning and learning to receive anal pleasure: I’m using an anal electrode with the Tens Unit. When used internally, the Tens Unit actually causes the sphincter muscle to contract and relax, making the plug move! This sensation is particularly erotic since the plug connects to the Tens Unit with one terminal up in the ass and the other on the penis or balls. Each pulse also stimulates the prostate. The feeling absolutely blows my mind; it feels so damn good! I used this anal-only e-stimming on day 4 of denial and again at day 12. For this, I utilized a self-made 3-inch uni-polar anal probe featuring a flanged base, plastic tube, and a larger round brass drawer pull/knob that conducts the electric charge. This is a uni-polar setup using another electrode—a ring around the cock and balls as the other terminal. My goal here is to enjoy an anal e-stim session lasting a couple of hours without touching my cock; I hold a saucer under it with both hands for this purpose. I did produce some pre-cum dribbles, which I am starting to taste… (see? I have been doing my reading, sissies) For those who haven’t tried e-stimming: it is extremely stimulating, relaxing, and enjoyable; time passes quickly… It feels so good as you slowly ramp up the power. I don’t think any harm comes from moderate use. My life won’t become unmanageable LOL although I admit it could become addictive! LOL Since I haven’t had an orgasm yet… it keeps me wanting more… I felt on the verge of climaxing a couple of times but dialed back the power before reaching it… I can’t explain why, unless due to years of edging while masturbating… Pavlov definitely needs to retrain this dog! The first few weeks involved constantly pulling out the Tens unit and trying different electrode combinations, enjoying every moment. I can set it on pulse mode; as I increase power using my self-made anal electrode, my anal sphincter contracts with each pulse. With every involuntary contraction, I pull the electrode deeper into my ass. My sphincter is grabbing hold of it inside me. I reached down and felt it involuntarily fucking in and out of my backside. There I sat looking at my computer screen, hands holding a plate under my penis while being fucked anally… Can you believe it? The knob rests right on my prostate… Oh so pleasurab
le.. It compares to nothing else I’ve experienced before… and this is just a standard medical TENS unit. I’ll likely purchase one of the high-end Made For Sex models soon. You should definitely google e-stimming… it’s truly worth exploring. Imagine an incredible torture or tease tool while locked up, with someone not only holding your key but also controlling the box connected to what’s in your rectum and on the tip of your penis (or sissy clit)! That’s my current situation today… My routine anal play involves one or all of these: either 1.) an e-stim session, 2.) wearing the Ass Lock, or 3.) using my large dildo. I think this is a solid foundation to build upon. I had visitors over a couple of nights ago and missed out on playing… but it was still on my mind. I’m denying myself orgasm until I connect to the TENS unit for electro play… The goal is HFO “hands free orgasm”… I plan to have a session with the machine within the next few days… If no release, I’ll continue my denial… for another couple of weeks while daily conditioning myself to appreciate the pure anal pleasure I’m discovering until I can finally self-milk through frustration or satisfaction. Then I’ll try HFO “Hands Free Orgasm” again at 30 days… I might ask for your recommendation then… and will be self-locked shortly after… My long-term mission is to find a lasting kinky, taboo, edge-of-experience lifestyle which likely includes chastity with a chosen Key Holder. As you can see, I am fully immersing myself in this experience, acquiring a custom-fitted stainless steel device. The next question lies in my willingness to submit to a key holder. I have the desire… my mind isn’t completely grasping it yet… but I’m working on it daily… I’ve always thought that one is either Dominant or submissive… I privately submitted for play a couple of times, being spanked until the dominant woman had her way with me and continued until she was exhausted. Another time, I was restrained while having a strap-on used on me. I enjoyed the subspace endorphin rush that lasted into the next day during both experiences. But to be locked without even allowing mention of release or asking for pleasure… is tantalizingly erotic and delicious as a concept… I can’t imagine living it though… You who do… two thumbs up! Thank you for this wonderful website… my device will arrive in a few weeks.. I’ve discovered that I am a grower… slightly over 5” when erect.. but shrinking to almost nothing when relaxed. I made three cardboard cylinder tubes measuring 1-¼, 1-½ & 1-¾ inches in length. I placed these on my cock while relaxing and observed that 1-¾ is likely the correct length with a 1-½ diameter. I’m going with custom steel and starting with what has been described as the ultimate trapped balls device. As a grower, short cb6000s will be too small; when relaxed, I want to sit at or near the tip with no room to expand. If you are also a grower, does that perfectly fitting small steel prevent raging hard-ons from ever starting? I’m curious about this and also what I’ve read regarding permanent cock length shrinkage… I want to keep my 5 inches! LOL How often do you get out for a stretch? Will being released every 2 or 3 weeks be adequate for maintaining health in the shaft? Not necessarily always happy, but healthy!![:rolleyes:]]( As a newbie, I cannot wait to insert my cock into my very own device and turn the key… starting the party! I welcome all comments from practitioners whether Dominant, submissive or sissy, or just the guy who likes being locked up! I value your combined experiences and the honesty you share with each other on this site. realdog2 … and will update my progress here soon with either YES! HFO or I had to WAIT 2 more weeks! I attached pics of Ass Lock Cock Ring, Penis Plug with Glans Ring and ME e-stimming using another ass lock which only has a small ball. I’ve fashioned an electrode out of it by wrapping in electrical tape except for the ball, which serves as the stimulus. Notice the 2” round sticky TENS pad on my perineum. I have four points of contact with penis: base and the anal electrodes! Hopefully my next pics will show me wearing my very own chastity device! *