I value the fetish topics covered in these forums. I wish everyone well who finds this rewarding. However, it appears there is another line of reasoning available here. At our core, we are all sensual creatures, and variety suits us well.
As a teenager, I suffered from bad skin; blood often seeped through my t-shirts and outer layers. I also wore braces for years. I maintained a brave face, but negative remarks really hurt. My self-esteem was indeed a challenge. Early encounters with women were not particularly positive either; I always felt on edge. My parents were wonderful people, though perhaps not the picture-perfect Ozzie and Harriet.
Early in my career, as I tried to establish myself, I focused heavily on work. I quickly took on supervisory roles and wanted to avoid any appearance of favoritism toward a single employee. I worked with and enjoyed many women professionally, but those connections remained strictly business-like. I participated in various activities outside the office, yet none led to a deep sensual connection. On one hand, I am quite introverted; at other times, I have been loud and opinionated. How can someone be both? When I speak out most strongly, it is often because I am protecting my true inner self from others getting too close.
There were several women I dated more than once, and they were delightful. I was one of those individuals with a fear of commitment. It was me! One evening, a lady reached over and touched my hand, and I felt like I might burst open. It wasn’t her; it was definitely me.
I can see how long-term chastity offers real benefits for changing one’s attitude toward the opposite sex. By chastity here, I mean no touching, masturbation, or sexual release. I want to give this a try. A device seems like it would help somewhat.
Considering continuous chastity for six to twelve months or longer brought up a humorous image of someone howling at the moon. Seriously, I view this form of abstinence as a good way to reconcile with my inner self. It is far too easy to just “pleasure myself” and miss out on the life benefits of sexuality and sensuality. I want chastity a chance.