Hey there. I’ve experimented with chastity for over a decade, starting when I picked up the CB3000 (do you recall those?). More recently, I got a Holy Trainer but parted ways with it after my girlfriend back then lost interest.
My current partner is quite submissive, and I hadn’t expected her to become my keyholder until last week. Our sex life had gotten into a bit of a rut: mostly me pleasuring her orally or through breast play first, followed by me finishing inside her while we tidy up. Then four or five days later, it’s the same routine again. It’s not unpleasant, just predictable.
So I asked her to take full command of our intimate life. Given her personality, that was a substantial ask for her. I offered to let her cum whenever and however she pleased, but denied me an orgasm more often than not. She worried it wouldn’t be fair if she came all the time while I didn’t. I explained how a sexually aroused man can actually benefit a woman. When she brought up penetration, I suggested we get a male strap-on harness, which really appealed to her. Since I usually last only about three or four minutes inside her, I think that’s part of why the strap-on idea is so attractive.
It was adorable when she asked if it would still be okay for her to tease me down there with her hand; my answer was YES… just don’t make me cum unless you want me to. She loved that suggestion. Now, her hands are inside my pants more than ever! She says “Tickle, tickle” while driving me up the wall! It’s delightfully frustrating, and I can’t get enough of it.
It’s been over a week since we started, and since my last orgasm. She is enjoying the control and denial she has over me. I definitely feel closer to her, and I think she feels that too. Soon, I believe she will be ready to learn about male chastity and wearing a device for her.
What does everyone here think? Am I reading her signs correctly?