I have shared elsewhere that after three years of long-term chastity (3-4 months at a time), we took a short break and are deciding things as they come along. A major issue was that my wife wasn’t sure how long to keep me denied from an orgasm. She didn’t want the burden of choosing.
I found a link to a wheel-of-fortune style website where you can customize each slice with whatever options suit your needs. You spin it and follow what lands. I set mine up not based on my fantasies, but on things I am actually willing to endure. Options include corporal punishment, KeyHolder (KH) choice, ruined orgasms, and timeframes ranging from 1 week to 8 weeks. I weighted the odds slightly toward 4 weeks without being too heavy about it. Our first spin landed on 5 weeks; since one week has already passed, I have four more to go.
What prompted this was an article citing a recent study showing that people feel less guilt when following someone else’s orders. They see themselves as the instrument rather than the musician, so to speak. This was confirmed in testing where a subject was told pressing a button would cause extreme pain (but no harm) to another person behind glass. The other person was an actor with no electrical shock at all. It proved that even reluctant people will press the button, even if they wouldn’t choose it themselves or tell anyone else to do so.
Now my wife knows she is just carrying out my orgasm denial order, not setting the duration herself. If the result is two months, she isn’t making me wait that long; she is simply enforcing the sentence. I will let you know how it goes. My wife is also comforted knowing every option on the wheel is something I am willing to do, so she isn’t just punishing me arbitrarily. Time will tell if this works out. Here is the link to the homepage. Just modify the wheel to your preference and save it. You can add up to 100 items. It also helps determine daily or weekly orgasm eligibility. Add as many “Orgasm” choices as you like, or very few. Include some humiliation punishments if needed, and let the wheel decide. You can set the wheel to remove a task once selected so that option is no longer available until all are used, forcing you to eventually do everything on the wheel.
We tried a physical wheel in the past, but using it for orgasm timing didn’t work well for us. We both prefer knowing when I will get an orgasm so we can prepare mentally and physically. It is easier for me to endure two months if I know definitely that release is coming. My wife gave me an unexpected orgasm on Valentine’s Day, which wasn’t great because I was caught off guard in a no-orgasm mindset. I mentally blocked out any thoughts of one. Hard to explain, but it felt like a bad orgasm probably because I was actively trying to avoid having one.