For those who follow my posts regularly, you know I have a habit of writing long ones, so please bear with the length. But do give it a read; your comments are always appreciated.
It appears that my chastity journey is shifting course. For the past two to three years, I’ve enjoyed wearing my CB3k device and have been encouraging my wife to embrace the pleasures of chastity as well. To be honest, she hasn’t fully bought into the concept yet; finding her things locked up feels like a bit of a letdown for her. Consequently, our play has mostly revolved around locking myself up when she’s away—during work hours or overnight—and using an online key safe to hold onto my keys.
Recently, I discovered that it is possible to ejaculate while still wearing the device. Initially, I put on the lock simply to curb masturbation frequency, but if more than seven days pass since my last release, I can cum without any issues every time now.
Over the last six months or so, I’ve made a deliberate choice to involve my wife more deeply in this lifestyle. Honestly, doing it alone feels somewhat pointless. Lately, I’ve realized that living chastity truly is about maximizing her satisfaction. This doesn’t mean abandoning what I want; rather, it means prioritizing her desires! So, what exactly does she expect?
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For three weeks out of every four, no touching my breasts or genitals unless she initiates (which won’t happen often).
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Plenty of kissing and cuddling.
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When she heads to bed, I do too. No staying up late watching TV or browsing the web (ahem:o). This isn’t just because I want to; it’s because she can’t sleep properly unless I’m beside her.
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During week four, she will be in the mood for intimacy. So make an effort: shower, shave, kiss, touch, and caress. If she is interested, she’ll let me know.
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When she shows interest, she absolutely loves it that I ask permission before touching her breasts or genitals. Before this rule, I was groping every five minutes; now they remain untouched for three weeks. It’s a huge turn-on for both of us!
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She also appreciates that I check with her before ejaculating to ensure she feels satisfied.
Here is the major shift:
- You might notice there isn’t much talk about belts or devices anymore. This operates on an honor system, 100%.
- She doesn’t want to dictate when I release; that decision rests with me. If I choose to restrict how often and regularly I cum, then I am playing by my own rules.
- However, she wants me to ensure that I ejaculate at the start of week four. When we have sex, she wants to feel fully satisfied rather than left wanting because I lasted only thirty seconds due to pent-up horniness.
So, I’ve drafted a chastity contract (now renamed an orgasm denial contract) for myself. My plan is to introduce it to her, showing how it aligns with what she enjoys while giving me the structure I need. Essentially, this means I will only cum a few times each month, all within week four. Weeks one through three are dry.
What am I hoping for? Well, based on the idea that this needs to work for both of us, with her needs firmly central, I hope she buys into the concept and understands why I avoid releasing during weeks one to three. In return, I want to pleasure her in every possible way during week four when she desires it. I’m hoping this contract helps her realize that chastity is fun for her too, sparking excitement about what I am offering. Perhaps she will encourage me to do things in week four that she truly enjoys, rather than just what I like.
At this moment, do I want a sudden epiphany where she suddenly embraces chastity and tells me to go lock up? Not necessarily. At this stage, I can genuinely say “No.” What I really want is for her to embrace the lifestyle and find enjoyment in my offering. If we only have sex once or twice a month because that’s what suits her best, that’s fine too. I just want her to look forward to it, knowing she will be satisfied in every way.
For me personally, I know this three-week wait builds up my desire for week four. It helps me stop calling my wife a nun and start better understanding her sexual needs, matching my energy levels to hers.
That’s the ramble over… thanks for reading.