My curiosity is growing, and it’s definitely increasing right now. Ever since my boyfriend got us both sufficiently intoxicated to explain what chastity was and share his interest in it—likely a few months into our early vanilla romantic life—I’ve always wanted to dive into exploring my sexuality with him while embracing that curious mindset. I remained a virgin until I literally handed over my V-card to Living Curious at age 21 (I had crafted the card out of paper as a teen, and after we did it, I signed and dated it so LC could keep it in his wallet!). This means not only am I new to kink and chastity overall, but I’ve been sexually active for just over a year.
By nature, I’m curious yet impulsive (thanks, ADHD!) which makes me jump into experiences without much planning. Our setup feels distinct from the couples’ dynamics in chastity that I’ve come across online or heard about. Since I’m still relatively new to this world, LC has been guiding me and teaching me “how-tos,” like how to act dominant when needed. While I definitely enjoy being dominant, I also love shuffling things up significantly by submitting completely to his control. Basically, if we could swap roles every time we have sex—which always involves penetration because I LOVE PENETRATION! <3 <3 <3—my body and kink-loving spirit would resonate with true multiple orgasmic passion! It does already happen that way, but who doesn’t love new adventures? The truth is, it’s really me who struggles to keep LC locked up for long stretches (label me a vanilla nympho; there’s nothing quite like feeling a real penis!). However, I’m starting to lock him all the time when we aren’t engaged in those ultimate moments of glory (in my humble opinion).
So why make this move now? I signed up on this site several months ago (almost a year actually…) and (guilty!) hadn’t returned until today. I suppose I’m finally ready to commit fully. Honestly, I’d love to discover what I can truly DO while in a dominant position rather than just wrestling Living Curious around, deciding it’s my turn, only then slowing the pace because I lacked a clear strategy. Since he adores pleasing me, I’ve grown accustomed to “taking,” and I feel somewhat out of practice with “giving”—or even accepting that taking can often be giving pleasure to LC most times. I really appreciate the idea of an equal power exchange; by this, I mean being dominant for half a scene and submissive for the other half—and I’d love to experience both aspects frequently! I crave both because I want him to make me happy just as much as I want to make him happy <3. So here’s to hopping on board this sexy, exploratory chastity train! Any thoughts or feedback would be greatly appreciated!