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Spaceman My Extended Journey to Chastity

member_ba19d2296a · 2026-08-27T06:35:59.000Z · 2 replies

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2026-08-27T06:35:59.000Z #1

After some time lurking and posting here, I felt it was the right moment to share how we arrived at our current situation: I’ve been locked around the clock for most of the period since October 2023, though I’m not entirely sure when that might shift.

This is my attempt to document my journey into chastity. It has evolved gradually over more than three decades of marriage, and as this is my first time writing something like this, I hope it isn’t too tedious and may be useful for others on a similar path. Since the story is lengthy, I’ll begin here and add updates over time.

We have never been a strictly vanilla couple, having discovered a shared interest in mild BDSM experimentation early in our relationship. My attraction to bondage started when I was a teenager, so this development felt natural. She introduced me to several areas I hadn’t experienced before. We experimented with tying up, teasing, light chastisement, nipple and clit clamps, among other things. Fast forward twenty years: while browsing online for new toys, we stumbled upon websites offering chastity cages. The idea appealed to me greatly back then, even though nothing was said about it immediately. By that time (due to various medical reasons), penetrative sex had become less frequent and somewhat difficult for her. Neither of us was entirely happy with this state of affairs but accepted it as our reality, unlikely to change soon.

About ten years ago, after much deliberation, I brought up the idea of trying a cage. She thought it seemed a bit unusual but agreed to give it a try. I explained that I wanted her to have total control over when it was worn; if she didn’t like it, we could stop at any time, and she could tell me to take it off whenever she wished. We both enjoyed books and video porn featuring BDSM and domination/submission dynamics, so she was very happy to assume the dominant role. The cage served as a clear indicator that I was her slave, allowing her to do whatever she pleased with me while I wore it—a situation I truly loved.

After considerable time spent measuring and reading size guides, we ordered an affordable version of the CB6000. It was tentatively tried on, and I loved it; she wasn’t completely convinced but went along with my enthusiasm.

Initially, I was only to wear the cage at home and remove it when going out. One day, however, I forgot to take it off during a shopping trip. I found this incredibly arousing. After her initial surprise turned into amusement, she enjoyed winding me up in the car and while we were out and about. Consequently, it ended up being worn continuously for several days until she finally told me to remove it. At that point, she would make me ejaculate—a process that was typically explosive; often, just the sensation of the cage sliding off was enough to trigger release, especially since she liked playing with my nipples simultaneously.

However, she disliked having a gap at the end from time to time. She preferred my penis pressed firmly against the bottom, preferably bulging out slightly. So, the CB6000 was replaced by a smaller, knock-off CB3000 model, though again, it wasn’t worn continuously at first.

Throughout this period, I never tried forcing anything upwards from below. I knew that if she felt pushed too hard, our arrangement might end. I have always insisted on only proceeding when we are both enjoying the experience. In fact, I loved her enjoyment of me wearing the cage while teasing, punishing, and controlling me; I have never self-locked since the deal was made that she controlled my locked status. As she pointed out, my penis is hers to do with as she wishes, always has been.

That’s at least how it all began…

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2026-08-27T08:22:07.246Z #2

Everything looks good so far. Please keep going. Eddie

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Firstly, thank you for the kind words. It was a big step to put this out there, but I felt it necessary. Knowing that people apparently enjoy reading it is very encouraging. So here comes the next part, somewhat abbreviated since several years are covered in just a few paragraphs, bringing me closer to today. Over time, she decided to add corporal punishment as an additional penalty for breaking rules, which she enjoys inflicting. The tricky part is that she creates new rules on the fly and only informs me when I break them. She has always maintained that she can do whatever she likes to me while I wear a cage (we have had a safe word since the beginning, though I’ve never used it), because putting on the cage transforms me into her slave. This includes nipple torture using clamps, clothes pegs, or most commonly, just fingers. Over time, my nipples have changed shape and grown in size. I also noticed they become more sensitive when caged. Every now and then—either because she feels like it or as punishment for worse transgressions—she enjoys whipping me with a riding crop. I wear the bruises proudly; any of these methods makes me swell up, making the cage feel even tighter. In fact, she loves announcing what she’s going to do beforehand, which is almost equally effective. In return, I have to play with her while caged and make her climax when I cannot. She also forces me to watch BDSM videos while tied up and caged as she teases me and brings herself off right in front of my face—an excruciatingly frustrating experience that I love. Later on, she told me she disliked the clear plastic models entirely, especially after one split (luckily without pain). So I suggested a metal version, which she agreed to help choose. Again opting for an affordable model, it was much shorter than the CB3000; in fact, I ended up being squashed into a 1¼-inch cage with enough room between the bars so she could touch and tease me through them. When aroused, my glans would swell out of the end. It also meant I could keep everything clean without removing it daily. She liked that much better, as did her teasing while wearing it, and even threatening me with it. Admittedly, I have always tended to push boundaries, but she simply says “caged, now” if I go too far. That was when WhatsApp messaging began. At work, I’d receive messages like “wear the cage when you get home,” “whip it up,” or “are you feeling cagey today?” There were also references to cages while out with friends or family—telling people I felt frustrated at work and confined. Every time she does this, it feels like an electric shock. She didn’t mind me wearing it to work but preferred that I knew it was waiting for me when I returned home. However, whenever I wore it, I had to remain subservient (failure to do so is punished according to severity) and keep it on continually until she told me otherwise, just not at the office—which mattered less as I started working from home several days a week. Occasionally, I mentioned stories of people wearing cages for extended periods (by then, the longest record was three weeks; I had only come once while caged). But she disliked the idea, saying it would make things too normal and boring. So I didn’t pursue that dream further, being content with what we had. Later came the agreement to buy a heavier steel cage (2 inches) in a birdcage design so she could punish me with that as well. And that’s how it went for several years: always a background threat that I could be instructed to wear the cage at any time, or told to fetch and whip from the wardrobe or whatever else she felt like doing depending on her mood. Sometimes for days she ignores my caged state and doesn’t touch me; other times she teases me all day. Most of the time, she orders me about, and I jump to her commands. I have no idea what changed exactly, but in early October ’23, she told me to get caged as usual—for two weeks this time. When I mentioned that the previous record was three weeks, her reply was simply, “Ok, we’ll beat that.” Being retired now meant there was no office distraction, so I wore it 24/7 (except for visits to distant family), but had to cage up immediately upon returning home. She then started adding days for rule-breaking (she still creates rules without telling me). October rolled into November, and then December. To add variety, she wrote punishments on folded pieces of paper; if I misbehaved, she told me to pick one out, and I suffered whatever was written. At that point, I made a major mistake, she got very angry, and ordered me to take it off and put it away since I wasn’t playing the game properly. In early January we talked about it again. I apologized and promised improvement. She told me to get caged but warned that things had to be better; this would become my status until the end of February. Well, that’s not quite what happened.

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