After some time lurking and posting here, I felt it was the right moment to share how we arrived at our current situation: I’ve been locked around the clock for most of the period since October 2023, though I’m not entirely sure when that might shift.
This is my attempt to document my journey into chastity. It has evolved gradually over more than three decades of marriage, and as this is my first time writing something like this, I hope it isn’t too tedious and may be useful for others on a similar path. Since the story is lengthy, I’ll begin here and add updates over time.
We have never been a strictly vanilla couple, having discovered a shared interest in mild BDSM experimentation early in our relationship. My attraction to bondage started when I was a teenager, so this development felt natural. She introduced me to several areas I hadn’t experienced before. We experimented with tying up, teasing, light chastisement, nipple and clit clamps, among other things. Fast forward twenty years: while browsing online for new toys, we stumbled upon websites offering chastity cages. The idea appealed to me greatly back then, even though nothing was said about it immediately. By that time (due to various medical reasons), penetrative sex had become less frequent and somewhat difficult for her. Neither of us was entirely happy with this state of affairs but accepted it as our reality, unlikely to change soon.
About ten years ago, after much deliberation, I brought up the idea of trying a cage. She thought it seemed a bit unusual but agreed to give it a try. I explained that I wanted her to have total control over when it was worn; if she didn’t like it, we could stop at any time, and she could tell me to take it off whenever she wished. We both enjoyed books and video porn featuring BDSM and domination/submission dynamics, so she was very happy to assume the dominant role. The cage served as a clear indicator that I was her slave, allowing her to do whatever she pleased with me while I wore it—a situation I truly loved.
After considerable time spent measuring and reading size guides, we ordered an affordable version of the CB6000. It was tentatively tried on, and I loved it; she wasn’t completely convinced but went along with my enthusiasm.
Initially, I was only to wear the cage at home and remove it when going out. One day, however, I forgot to take it off during a shopping trip. I found this incredibly arousing. After her initial surprise turned into amusement, she enjoyed winding me up in the car and while we were out and about. Consequently, it ended up being worn continuously for several days until she finally told me to remove it. At that point, she would make me ejaculate—a process that was typically explosive; often, just the sensation of the cage sliding off was enough to trigger release, especially since she liked playing with my nipples simultaneously.
However, she disliked having a gap at the end from time to time. She preferred my penis pressed firmly against the bottom, preferably bulging out slightly. So, the CB6000 was replaced by a smaller, knock-off CB3000 model, though again, it wasn’t worn continuously at first.
Throughout this period, I never tried forcing anything upwards from below. I knew that if she felt pushed too hard, our arrangement might end. I have always insisted on only proceeding when we are both enjoying the experience. In fact, I loved her enjoyment of me wearing the cage while teasing, punishing, and controlling me; I have never self-locked since the deal was made that she controlled my locked status. As she pointed out, my penis is hers to do with as she wishes, always has been.
That’s at least how it all began…