My wife is always accessorizing and picking outfits for her friends, which was the first step in getting her invested in considering chastity. She says she doesn’t have many specific “kinks,” but enjoys lingerie a bit, vintage fashion, organizing social events, and so on. I picked up a CB6000 at a nearby shop to test out being locked during the December holidays, though she noted that the clear plastic looked a little plain. That just wouldn’t do!
Her mental light bulb clicked on with that remark. It was time for some shopping! There were so many styles and color choices available for cages, which really got her excited about choosing one for me. She spent quite a while browsing and selected several options she liked before settling on a teal Holy Trainer V3.
We drew up a brief agreement regarding my lockup; it specified that I cannot bring up the topic of chastity unless she does first (unless health or maintenance is involved). I wore the device for another couple of weeks, with some playtime in between, and then we stored it away for a few months. Now we are just past a few days back into our routine, and things feel more “fun” than ever before.
The extra attention I give her now, combined with all that redirected energy and the cage’s attractive look, is helping her grow more comfortable with the concept. She checks on my lock most mornings to ensure I have put it on (I don’t sleep in mine) and says “good boy” when she sees it. While she does worry a bit about whether I am comfortable enough, I reassure her that wearing it isn’t uncomfortable at all.
We shall see how things progress! We had some wonderful playtime last night, and she clearly enjoyed having control. Perhaps she is starting to realize the benefits. Conveniently, before bedlast night, I was instructed to put my cage back on first thing in the morning. Yes ma’am! Work in progress: I am trying not to constantly bring up chastity (it goes against our rules). The urge is there, but I am holding it. Helping increase her comfort with control without me trying to take over myself.
Successes: The cage fits well and my maintenance routine is established. She enjoys the extra attention from me and seems quite aroused. Sex has become much less stressful in this new dynamic. Usually, I need a while to reach orgasm, and occasionally performance anxiety gets the better of me. Typically, I do not like being the center of attention; finding out that my orgasm signals her “success” as a partner used bother me. Now, however, I am fighting back the urge to cum, and her success criteria have shifted. A win-win!