Extended Orgasm Denial Over Time

I have a question for my fellow wives who hold the keys. Do you notice that as you become more at ease with this lifestyle, your ‘need’ for him to climax is decreasing? What I mean is, when Ken first brought up all of this to me, it didn’t go well. I got upset, took it personally, and called him a perv. On our second attempt, I decided I wanted to give it a try at least, seeing if I could manage it in a way that benefited me rather than just being another game or item on my to-do list. As we tried, adjusted, adapted, and talked, I found that I actually liked the idea of sex happening on my terms as well as the other benefits like his attention and help with housework. Fast forward several years, and now I find no real need for him to have an orgasm since we are done having kids. When he has an orgasm, he gets all kinds of weird for a few days, and it can take 10 days or more until his passion for and pursuit of me returns to pre-orgasm levels. Why should I give up all that just so he can get a few moments of pleasure?